The world, especially the Internet World, is teeming with people who call themselves “Opinionated”.
People are pretty proud in penning (typing) their “Opinions” and claiming how they don’t care about what people have to say coz’ they are sooooo “Opinionated”.
This part is cool!!!
What matters is how exactly we behave towards other “Opinionated”s.
As long as someone’s “Opinions” are the same as (or bare any resemblance to) our own, we are at peace. But, they differ for an instant and Oooopsss!!! We find ourselves at the verge of WW III.
I do, too.
But, I think that we need to reconsider what this over emphasized word actually means to us.
I now mention the meaning of ‘Opinionated’ and ‘Opinion’ from a very basic Oxford Dictionary (a REAL hard covered book, not thru Google).
OPINIONATED: (adj). assertively dogmatic in one’s views
OPINION: (n).1. a view or judgment not necessarily based on fact or knowledge.> the beliefs or views of a large number of people: the changing climate of opinion. > an estimation of quality or worth: he had a high opinion of himself. 2. Law a formal statement of reasons for a judgment given. > a barrister’s advice on the merits of a case.
I am not going into the origin of the word. Not all are interested in finding origins of words…. But if you are, you may well find out yourself.
As we see, an ‘opinion’ is just that…. An ‘opinion’. It is not a FACT. We can hardly be sure of anything being a fact.
All this world is just a maze of opinions. Now, that, again, is my opinion.
And our real understanding of the word is put to test when we come across people who don’t conform to our views of the world and beyond. To what extent do we go to change their points of view.
We do it all the time, ok- a LOT MANY times, if not always.
HERE, I think, is where we can actually learn to control ourselves.
I personally have a simple funda in this matter- if the ‘Opinion’ under scrutiny has been opined in YOUR space, you have all the rights to have the final word, coz anybody trying to give their ‘little bits of difference’ to your opinion are trying to mould you to suit themselves- which they should not, even if they consider themselves to be the most opinionated ones in the world, coz a truly ‘opinionated’ person (I know this word is being highly repeated!!!!) knows the process that goes into the ‘making of an opinion’. He/she realizes that an opinion formed has been formed by either much thinking (as in the case of a person who reverts to Islam after studying Islam) or no thinking at all (as is true with a large number of the ‘born-Muslims’). While in the first case any assertion to the contrary belief will be largely futile coz the person does have some idea of what the person is saying/doing (e.g, telling a revert to leave Islam coz it teaches violence. Any person reading about/ dwelling into religion in today’s time would have definitely come across this Islam-is-violent thing), in the second case too, too much persuasion is in vain, coz’ then we are dealing with people who are really not interested in knowing anything (e.g., a Muslim who is a Muslim just coz his father was one, telling all other religions are false without even knowing what the other religion teaches- if you try to ‘persuade’ him not to believe in anything that his family has ‘conventionally’ believed in, you’re not doing anything other than irk him).
And SO, I let people have their space. You wouldn’t find me hammering my head against the wall of someone’s opinions, if he is not coming down and hurling it at me. And SO, I’m left utterly amazed when people argue with me over some matter, whatever it be, in places as mine as my FB account or my Blog. While they are open to be read by all, I don’t really think they are anything close to a discussion forum. If I start considering ‘people’ and what they think even while writing my own blog, where exactly does ‘my own opinion’ go?
I ain’t a Shahrukh or a Kareena that my take on anything would or even should matter to anyone! Then why am I not entitled to have my opinion on something?
Do people feel that I have never opposed them anywhere coz I agree with each and everything that they have ever said or written? God! No! I just think that if you feel like THAT, cool!!! I don’t! Cooler!
But, obviously , my opinionated ‘friends’ don’t think so. For them, being opinionated means a successful conversion of the ‘opponent’s’ viewpoint.
It is one thing to disagree with me, but, it is a totally different thing to ‘argue’ with me until I accede to you. Why should I ?????
On the one hand my ‘opinionated’ friends say how ‘courageous’ they are, how ‘bold’, how ‘i-don’t-give-a-shitt-ish’ in having their opinions…. On the other hand they don’t appreciate the same ‘courage’, ‘boldness’ and ‘i-don’t-give-a-shit-ishness’ of another person!
Or are they trying to show that they are sooooo totally opinionated that they cannot stand anybody else speaking anything that goes against them????
You are then trying to encroach into someone else’s space.
You will never find me going on and on and on in someone else’s blog or someone else’s anything, to prove my point. I usually ignore ‘stuff’ that I dislike, and if I don’t, I only present my own reasons for disagreement and say a tata and leave.
But, if it’s MY blog, YOU are leaving.
If I let you have space for your opinions, I expect you to let me have mine.
I mean the very purpose behind creating these ‘spaces’ was to voice my opinions.
Respecting opinions should be mutual. I am no way going to do ALLLL the respecting here.
Of course, many might again disagree with this funda of mine.
But well…this is me!
You know “Saare jahaan se achha Hindostan humara” doesn’t mean that if a Pakistani is praising his own country I would go and ‘Pachhar maro’ there. But it means that I will not take anybody ‘pachhar maro-ing’ when I sing the praise of my own motherland.
This entire post actually popped into my head after being reminded of this old movie quote-
“Opinions are like assholes. Everybody’s got one and everyone thinks everyone else’s stinks.”
This is a wowsome comparison :p
You know these assholes… the anal apertures… are really important.
The asshole is the hole that allows waste to pass out….i should rather say ONE form of waste to pass out from the human body.
An absence of asshole can only be accepted if there is no excreta formation which in turn can occur if you don’t eat at all or maybe vomit out every thing that you eat. Both aren’t really pleasant!
“Imperforate anus” is a congenital anomaly where the affected child does not have a proper anus (maybe narrowed severely or maybe completely missing)…. He does not have an asshole. The child is then taken to a Paediatric Surgeon in order to painstakingly create an asshole for him.
In certain conditions where the lower part of the large intestine is resected, and faeces cannot be excreted the normal way, a colostomy is created, which, simply put, is a hole in the abdominal wall to let the faeces out.
The importance of assholes cannot be undermined.
And if our asshole is itching, we must try to keep it cleaner, and maybe de-worm ourselves.And talking about the ‘stink’. Well, we should either bear it or exchange noses!